The Quirky Coach

Are You a Loser? What To Do If You're One

2009-04-02T07:44:00.001+08:00

Question:

I'm a loser, what can I do?

Quirky Answer:

I'm so sorry to hear that, Sweetheart. You just said you're a loser, there is nothing you could do. There is nothing I could do either. Losers are losers. They do only one thing-they LOSE. It's like they were destined to lose the moment they were born!( talking about destiny).

Losers don't learn anything, it's no use trying to help them. Losers won't believe in themselves anyway, so how could they believe somebody else?

Losers are victims. They are not willing to rise and prove their worth. They get themselves bullied. They believe they are ugly. (For the record, there is a distinct difference between being ugly and being a loser. We'll try to cover that in future posts).

So now, where were we? Oh yeah, we're with the loser. What? You're the loser? I can't believe I've been talking to you. I mean, how much of my precious time have you wasted already?

Hmm... maybe there's still hope for you, after all. I talked to you, didn't I? I don't talk to losers. I talk only to winners, and to people who don't know yet the winner within them. Maybe you're one of those. Either you're a winner, or you just don't know it yet!

Winners search for answers. They may cry. They may get frustrated. But deep within them, they feel it's wrong to just give up. They feel bad because they know they aren't on the right path yet. Winners don't even need to be perfect. Only losers think that perfection is the goal. Winners are human beings who have a healthy sense of themselves, are happy to be human and are not ashamed to cry and to get frustrated at times. So what's our problem here again about losers?

When Others Make You Cry

2009-04-01T14:36:00.003+08:00

Don't feel so bad when you feel down and soft. Cockroaches remind us what toughness means without heart!

Quirky Task for the Day 03.19.09

2009-03-19T08:12:00.001+08:00

Look up that great blue sky! You'd be surprised how very few people ever look beyond eye level. :-)

When People Ask Why You're Still SINGLE!

2009-03-18T16:10:00.002+08:00

When people ask you why you're still single

Some people never learn. They keep on asking these stupid questions. Truly, they know not what they do. They don't know how annoying they are. They don't know how they hurt other people's feelings. Here are just some suggestions if you're ever asked that stupid question again.

TAKE ONE

Why are you still single?

Answer:
So what? Clearly, it's none of your business.

TAKE TWO

Why are you still single?

Answer:
Well, why not try it for once? Maybe you'll be a lot happier and you'll stop meddling in other people's lives.

TAKE THREE

Why are you still single?

Answer:
Well, can you help me find a good man these days? If you can't, just get out of my face.

TAKE FOUR

Why are you still single?

Answer:
(No reply. Sometimes it just gets so tiring when you answer stupid questions.)

Why is My Boss LIKE THAT?!

2009-03-18T16:07:00.002+08:00

QUESTION:

Why is my boss like that?

QUIRKY COACH:

What do you mean “like that”? Have you no access to a dictionary? Hmm... This is a tough one. But since this is a question, I'd assume “like that” pertains to something negative. You wouldn't complain about something positive, would you?

I mean, if your boss is like this:

1.Generous
2.Encouraging
3.Supportive

Why would you complain? You must be nuts!

But then, if your boss is like this:

1.Demanding
2.Slave-driver
3.Ruthless

Well, you really have the right to complain! And I think I have the PERFECT solution for you:

RESIGN!

By golly, why waste your waking hours working for a boss “like that”? Why stress yourself? Why grow old before your time?

It really doesn't matter what makes him “like that”. If you can't stand it anymore, just get out.

Or do I sense something heroic in there. Yeah, try to change the boss cause he's really not like that. He's just stressed. He's been through a lot of problems lately. He's had a rough childhood.

Well, if you could understand him so much, why ask? Just accept him AS IS, WHERE IS. Accept that he is not perfect, and neither are you. Accept that you're finding a hard time looking for another job nowadays, with the recession and all.

But if you can't stand it anymore and if you have enough courage to drop out of your comfort zone, then by all means, let your boss deal with his own problems, leave him be and solve yours.

10 Things To Do on a Boring Day

2009-03-18T16:06:00.001+08:00

10 Things To Do On a Boring Day

1.Pinch your nose. Glad it's still there, aren't you?

2.Yell. It's good to hear your own voice.

3.Pray it rains so other people will get bored as well, hehe.

4.Catch a computer virus. Let it delete all your unbacked up files. Then install everything over again.

5.Have an executive check up and confine yourself in a hospital. You'd look forward to another boring day.

6.Send hate mails to your ex.

7.Pick up the phone and pretend you're 80 years old. Then find yourself a phone pal!

8.Pluck out all the white hair you could find on your daddy's head. Just don't get him bald, ok?

9.Write a bestselling novel like Harry Potter and get rich for once.

10.Do a good deed for a change and make your angels happy :-)

How Do You Fend Off Annoying Suitors?

2009-03-18T16:02:00.001+08:00

It happens a lot, especially to beautiful ladies. Accept it, this is the price you have to pay. Rare are the times when men aren't lured into you, following you like dogs everywhere you go. Sometimes though it can get so annoying. After all, when Mr. Right finally comes your way, he might not be able to get to you fast and squeeze himself through that crowd. You want to narrow down your choices and fend off these annoying men. How do you do that?

Say PLEASE. Everyone deserves a warning.
Cook them terrible food.
Pretend you forget their names.
Always arrive late in your appointments.
Criticize. Criticize. Criticize
Beat them in sports or any area they're good at and crush their ego.
Ask for something you know they couldn't give you.
Try a subtle but effective approach. Don't apply your deodorant for a few days.
Date with their sister.
If all else fails, pretend you're going nuts and having multiple personality disorder. That should turn them off!

Why Can't Men Like Me?

2009-03-18T09:44:00.004+08:00

QUESTION:

Why can't men like me?

QUIRKY ANSWER:

Well, how could they? You don't even seem to like yourself!

If you want others to like you, you've got to be able to like yourself first. Now don't cry yet, sweetheart. This isn't the end of the world. Being ugly is not a disease, you know. Ooops! What I mean is that it's not like cancer. There is still hope for you. No, I don't mean there's hope for you to become a beauty queen. We're bordering on the impossible there, I think.

But cheer up! There is hope, you know. There is this very powerful quote that could really cheer up the likes of you. Now if I could only remember it...

DING! O, yeah. Here it is:

LOVE IS BLIND!

See? If a man loves you, he loves you. No questions asked. No unmet expectations. He accepts you, warts and all. After all, they say the best things in life are often invisible to the naked eye. Like MUSIC. Like TOUCH.

So don't you mind it when you feel you're not attractive (even if you're really not). It just simplifies the process, you know.

You are able to eliminate early on which men aren't really deserving of you. I can assure you, you'll regret these guys in the long run.

Mr. RIGHT will be there at the right place and at the right time. He will still be there even if everything else seems to be going wrong. Right?

How Do I Tolerate An Irritating Person?

2009-03-18T09:35:00.005+08:00

QUESTION:

How do I tolerate an irritating person?

QUIRKY ANSWER:

Why Are you Asking That? Now, you're irritating me! And why would you want to tolerate an irritating person?

Tell him he's annoying, he's a scoundrel, he's a good-for-nothing person that does nothing else in this world but irritate you. Correct?

If he is such a person, then it's possible that you're not the only one getting irritated by his presence. And if you're able to tell him that and make him change, then you'll be having a lot of people in your gratitude.

But make it clear first in your heart. Why are you being irritated? And why would you want to tolerate it?

Don't you think that maybe, there's something irritating about you, too? Or don't you think that deep inside, you've labelled and misjudged this person?

I'm sure no saint, baby. But you've got to know what you want and why you want those things.

If by chance you find out that things can still be worked out, and this person has a chance of escaping hell in exchange for only 10,000 years of purgatory, then why not TALK to him? COMMUNICATION is the key, sweetheart. You might just earn a FRIENDSHIP with an irritating person. Good luck! ;-)

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2009-03-17T17:13:00.000+08:00

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